The Full Moon in Gemini

The full moon in Gemini is Friday, November 23. Gemini is the corresponding zodiac sign to The Lovers card: the “twins,” the “partners,” the multiple facets of ourselves that make up our identity and make us whole, complete beings.


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The full moon calls upon us to revisit the intentions we set at the new moon and reflect on our accomplishments and manifestations of those intentions. In Gemini, the focus of these reflections and accomplishments is in the realm of intellect, social life, communication, collaboration and mental/cerebral pursuits.  This energy is in stark contrast to that of November 7th’s new moon in Scorpio, which focused on our inner Void, the depths of the subconscious, darkness, wisdom and internal/spiritual evolution.


Whether or not you already follow lunar cycles, how were you feeling around the time of November 7? What aspirations did you have in mind? What were you looking forward to?


How have those hopes and goals manifested themselves thus far? What have you accomplished within the realm of the social, the intellectual, the communicative? What are the separate parts of your identity that make up your whole Self? Are they harmoniously balanced, or do they conflict in a way that makes you feel fragmented? If the latter resonates with you, how could you find a way to integrate the facets of your Self into your whole Self in a way that feels balanced, authentic and serene?


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How could you channel the energy of Gemini in your life, and what would the embodiment of that energy look like in your life? Perhaps it would encourage you to be more open and friendly, to nurture more social connections, to offer more ideas at work or school, or to have that difficult-but-necessary conversation with your partner, relative or coworker.  


Make the most of this Gemini full moon power by meditating on these questions, and using corresponding crystals and herbs (which I’ll include in my next post) to amplify the energy of this lunation.


On this Gemini full moon, we are emerging from the dark, watery depths of Scorpio and leaping into the light of Gemini’s open air.  Whether you are freely dancing under a cloudless sky or still doused in the tears and sweat of Scorpio’s subconscious spiritual work, this full moon invites you to reflect on your efforts and achievements, connect with your community and celebrate the passing of Samhain season, while looking forward to the return of light at Yule and the next full moon.  


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The Lovers

The Lovers card of the tarot is a complex and nuanced archetype with the potential for profound healing, autonomy and self-love.  Traditional imagery and interpretation, however, can impart a flat, single-faceted meaning to the card. By understanding the full spectrum of this card’s significance, we can gain a better sense of what The Lovers indicates when it comes up in a tarot reading.  We can also use the energy of this beautiful, powerful archetype for healing in magical practice.


For those who are new to divination and the Craft, the Tarot is a deck of 78 cards, each with a symbolic image and highly nuanced meaning accompanying it.  The cards can be drawn singularly or in multi-card layouts, called “spreads,” and interpreted to gain a better understanding of the influences and energies informing one’s situation, mindset, relationship dynamics, etc.


Tarot decks vary in design and structure, but most are made up of 22 major arcana cards and 56 minor arcana cards.  While the minor arcana cards represent journeys through daily and transitory matters, the major arcana cards are strong, individual archetypes that represent an evolutionary “journey” toward enlightenment, from the Fool (numbered zero in the deck) to the World (the twenty-second card).


The Lovers (Rider-Waite tarot)


The Lovers is the sixth card in the major arcana.  The card corresponds to Gemini, the zodiac sign of mutable Air, which carries the qualities of communication, intellect and duality.  As such, the imagery of The Lovers reflects the duality within a union. In the Rider-Waite tarot deck, The Lovers card shows a man and woman, a heterosexual incarnation of a romantic union as well as the binary of feminine and masculine energies.*  (Please see note at the end of the article)

The couple stands in a fertile landscape, reflective of their primal sexual connection and potential to grow together.  Their nudity indicates mutual trust, honesty and openness. They have nothing to hide from each other and are comfortable being vulnerable with one another.  The couple stands beneath an angelic figure, who many consider to be Raphael, the angel of physical and emotional healing, and who blesses the couple’s union as Divine.  Behind the woman is the tree of life, present in the Christian lore of the Garden of Eden, accompanied by the serpent and apple that Eve is said to have eaten from. Behind the man are the fires of passion, also considered to be the forces of the zodiac signs as there are twelve of them.  These images behind each individual are traditionally seen as “temptations” that may draw the couple away from each other. As the Tarot is highly interpretive, however, many of these symbols and concepts can be read and re-evaluated toward a more inclusive and holistic perspective.


The traditional meanings of The Lovers lean toward romantic and sexual love stemming from a union between two people.  These interpretations include harmony in a relationship, an alignment of values between partners, commitment, and a sense of completeness due to a “soulmate” union.  This bond is one of open communication, of each partner complementing the other, and of profound emotional connection within a relationship.

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The Lovers: Trungle’s Tarot


The traditional interpretations offer a (limited) level of nuance as well.  They expand to include being true to one’s own values, making choices in alignment with one’s values and identity, and acknowledging individuality within a relationship.  Some sources encourage self-reflection of discerning what “love” means to the individual and determining one’s own values.

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The Lovers card (Serpentfire tarot)


Joie Grandbois, my good friend, fellow witch, and tarot reader of over 30 years, offers an alternate perspective on the Lovers which prioritizes self-love, individual evolution and pursuit of one’s passion:

There are many who assume that The Lovers represents a romantic partnership, but…the Lovers, [as] a major arcana card, represents a very different kind of love.   The Lovers represents the “thing” that completes you in a way nothing else does: your higher calling or purpose. It is the ‘why’ of your being. When you discover that, and you follow it, there is a rightness to it that you feel deep in your soul.  Following that calling is not always easy; we often fight against it because we try to follow the path of what everyone else tells us we should be doing. We might even feel selfish for pursuing the very thing that completes us.

But it is in feeding ourselves, in finding the joy [in which] we are meant to live, that we are best able to serve others.  A person who is whole, who is fulfilled, [and] who loves themselves is able to give to the world in a way others may be unable to because they are able to do so freely.  Their value is not based on how their gift is accepted. [The Lovers] is a powerful card, and often comes up when someone is facing the decision of whether not to follow a calling or questioning if they have one.  It is a card that requires listening deeply to one’s own heart.


According to Joie’s perspective, our true “wholeness” and completion lies not in a romantic relationship with someone else, but by discovering and pursuing the passion that fulfills us.  Equipped with this interpretation, we can see the couple not as two people who are dependent on each other, but as the facets of ourselves that make us whole. Perhaps we could see the twelve zodiacal fires as the varying energies of our passion, as we all have the entire zodiac in our natal charts.  The serpent in the tree, rather than symbolizing disobedience and sin as in Christian lore, could stand for the serpent of wisdom and liberation, as it does in so many other cultures (Lilith as the serpent liberating Eve from the patriarchy, the Kundalini serpent, and the Ouroboros, to name a few). Instead of considering these influences as harmful temptations, one could see them as an individual’s assets of wisdom and passion, which will aid them in their journey toward personal fulfillment.


The Lovers calls on us to find fulfillment within ourselves and to pursue our passions.  While it depicts very traditional imagery of a romantic union, a nuanced interpretation indicates that this “union” is between an individual and their calling: the receptive and the assertive; the union of “being” and “doing.”  The Lovers is a powerful card of a different kind of love, which compels the querent to understand their own sense of self-love and nurture their individual journey toward self-fulfillment.

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The Lovers: Marigold Tarot


*Note: While the Rider-Waite tarot deck is the most well-known deck and thus the deck I chose to use as a reference for the imagery of The Lovers, it absolutely exemplifies a heteronormative, cis-normative and binary view of relationships and gender.  This blog post is written to prioritize the meaning of The Lovers as a card about self-love and individuality, but it’s still important to acknowledge the limiting and exclusionary nature of the way the Rider-Waite card represents a romantic union. As we know, a relationship is definitely not only defined as one cis-man and one cis-woman, and the terms “masculine energy” and “feminine energy” do not correspond to only men and women, respectively.  Ultimately, the message of The Lovers is the balance of energies, independent of sexual orientation or gender identity, regardless of whether one interprets these energies as within oneself or within a relationship. Additionally, there are multitudes of amazing and inclusive tarot decks such as the Slow Holler tarot, the Tarot of the Silicon Dawn, and the Dust II Onyx deck. Asali Earthwork ( and Little Red Tarot ( both have great resources for queer and feminist tarot decks.  


Queering The Lovers card, courtesy of Little Red Tarot (


Sources: Biddy Tarot (, The Tarot Bible by Sarah Bartlett, A Compendium of Herbal Magic by Paul Beyerl, Joie Grandbois (

Meet The Love Witch

Hello loves!  My name is Gwen and I am the Head Witch, author and owner of The Love Witch sexuality and spirituality blog.  

I am a sex educator based in Portland, Maine.  I work with folks of all ages, stages, identities, desires and abilities, and I support them in pursuing their personal fulfillment in sexual pleasure and health.  

I am also a witch, practicing as a solitary as well as in the Corvid sub Rosa coven and the Witches of Downeast.  My path includes influences of Wicca, Heathenry and Celtic Reconstructionism, though I am always evolving and metamorphosing within my personal practice.  I am a devotee of The Morrígan, of Freya, and of Saturn.  I frequently connect with Venus as well as a melange of other deities that call to me from time to time.  My Craft includes reading tarot and runes, astrology, lunar magic, herbal magic and crystal healing.

I started this blog as an educational and creative outlet, and as a space to combine and integrate my identities as a sex educator and spiritual devotee, and to establish myself as an individual separate from my workplace.  As a recent college graduate with a B.A. in Women’s Studies and a minor in Holistic and Integrative Health, and as a feminist, sex-positive witch, I believe that sexual autonomy and spiritual practice are inextricably connected and equally important for attaining full personal sovereignty and fulfillment.  My vision is to create a unique, interactive and ever-evolving space to understand and embrace these two integral facets of human experience. Welcome to the journey!